In May, my daughter turned 13, so I am now a mum to a teenager! Often over the years of my children growing up I recall this poem, it is true, touching and always makes me cry….
There is a last time for everything.
There will come a time when you will feed your baby for the very last time.
They will fall asleep on you after a long day And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child.
One day you will carry them on your hip then set them down,
And never pick them up that way again.
You will scrub their hair in the bath one night
And from that day on they will want to bathe alone.
They will hold your hand to cross the road,
Then never reach for it again.
They will creep into your room at midnight for cuddles,
And it will be the last night you ever wake to this.
One afternoon you will sing “the wheels on the bus”
and do all the actions, Then never sing them that song again.
They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate,
The next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone.
You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your last dirty face.
They will run to you with arms raised for the very last time.
The thing is, you won’t even know it’s the last time
Until there are no more times. And even then, it will take you a while to realize.
So while you are living in these times,
remember there are only so many of them and when they are gone, you will yearn for just one more day of them.
For one last time.
So I look at my 13 year old with tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat, we no longer sing wheels on the bus and she’s too big to curl up on my lap. But I totally cherish the other moments we still have. I hold her hand and tell her daily how much she is loved. Every night I kiss her goodnight and we talk about her day.
I don’t know how long it will last, when spending time with your mum will not be cool, I’m guessing it will be sometime in these teen years, but even then I will do my best to remind her that I’m here, that I’ve been there and really do understand and I will love her no matter what, forever.